Based on your ID# you were not around for the Dark Days of Sudden Death, after USCF approved G/30 for Regular rating and before delay-capable digital clocks arrived.
Everyone and his brother agreed that was bad—but folks have argued over the best ‘solution’ for more than 20 years.
Steve Immitt directed the first SD events in which I played. Tim Just was very polite to me at Cherry Hill 2002, perhaps because I did not take issue with ‘his’ Rulebook, then in final proofs.
I like both these guys as far as I know them and felt bad the way they sparred on the video of the Rules Workshop last week. Brother, that was depressing. We should all learn to get along.
To address your point: Our club has not had siblings play in the same event in many years, but we have several parent-child combos. We try to avoid pairing them against each other when possible, but sometimes there is no way around it.
The only one who ever complained was the club’s former TD, who refused to pair himself against his grown son. Luckily, the son was rated a few hundred points ahead of his dad, so it seldom came up. Then he moved far away, solving the problem for good.
My brother taught me the moves of chess on a Saturday morning in 1971, when Fischer boomed. He is not a tournament player but if he were I doubt either of us would have a problem playing the other now and then.
Brothers who refuse to play rated chess against each other either take chess too seriously or have issues not related to chess.
I don’t think this could fly at the pro or semi-pro level. The Byrne brothers played many times, I’m pretty sure. I suspect the Portisches did, too. The Hunts and the Cramlings might have avoided that very often, due to gender.
See: susanpolgar.blogspot.com/2006/01 … lings.html
I would tell brothers who did not want to play each other we would do what we could to avoid that, but if it happened, so be it. I might suggest they alternate tournaments, to make sure they would not be paired with each other.
If I felt bold or knew them personally, I might also suggest they ponder the points about taking chess too seriously and/or the need to deal with issues not related to chess.